Asking the body why it’s in a certain state is often counterproductive

When we’re working with the body we often notice certain feelings and sensations that are part of our “felt-sense”.

Those feelings and sensations are always there for a reason but we may not always know what it is.

For example,  “Why do I have a lump in my throat?”

We desperately want to know why so we can find a solution.

More often than not, we don’t get an answer or the  answer isn’t authentic.

We have many methods to help the body reveal its truths, including asking questions, but asking “Why?” prematurely with a dash of impatience, can be counterproductive.

This “why” comes from the intellect and can imply judgment.

Instead, approach the “lump in the throat” or “tightness in the shoulder” as a “thing”. As if it’s its own entity.

Greet it.

Ask if it’s ok to just be with it.

Then, try to get to know it better, like a new friend.

Get curious about its essence. Invite it to describe itself in as much detail as it wants using different adjectives.

Next, see how it feels from its point of view: “it feels tight and constricted, like a little knot and it’s actually scared”.

At some point we can check if it’s ok to ask it questions such as:

• What do you want me to know about you?

• What makes you feel so scared?

• Is there an emotion that comes with this sensation or image? (if there’s no emotion in the original description)

• Is there an image that expresses how you feel right now?

• Is there something hidden under this?

You might think of your own non-intimidating and inviting questions to the felt sense which will increase the chances of it communicating with you. But remember: if it’s not ready, there’s no sense in pushing.

If you’re not getting answers, you might sense your frustration in which case you’re welcome to check in with this new felt sense of “frustrated” in the same way that you did with this one :)