The Art of Fighting Well

How to Navigate Conflict in a Way That Deepens Trust and Connection

Sunday, December 13, 2026

11:00 AM-1:00 PM ET

$45

Limited to 12 Participants

I know what it’s like when hurt doesn’t get repaired.

For a long time, when something happened in an important relationship that hurt me, I would shut down. I didn’t feel safe enough to say what I was really thinking or feeling, so I went deep inside myself instead.

But the hurt didn’t disappear just because we weren’t talking about it.

Over time, resentment accumulated. I became more guarded. Desire faded. There were times when I didn’t want to be intimate, or even particularly close.

Eventually, I became stronger and more able to speak vulnerably about what was happening inside me. But I learned something else:

Being willing to talk about a rupture isn’t the same as knowing how to repair it.

I could find the courage to say, This hurt me. This is what happened inside me. This is what I need.

But sharing vulnerably didn’t automatically lead to feeling heard or understood. And without that, we couldn’t truly repair.

When the same pattern happened again and again, the hurt accumulated. Eventually, there was simply too much of it between us. For me, the relationship reached a point where the damage could no longer be repaired.

That experience taught me something I wish I had understood much earlier:

Conflict itself isn’t necessarily what destroys connection. It’s what happens when hurt goes unrepaired, again and again.

And it’s one of the reasons learning how to repair matters so deeply to me today.

My understanding of repair comes from both lived experience and years of professional study.

I’ve experienced what happens when hurt goes unrepaired and resentment and distance accumulate. I’ve also experienced the profound difference it makes when rupture is met with curiosity, empathy, accountability, and a genuine desire to reconnect.

I don’t teach repair because I’ve always been good at it. I teach it because I know what it can cost when we don’t know how, and what becomes possible when we do.

It’s also part of what drew Lara and me to create The Art of Fighting Well together.

We both work with people around intimacy, relationships, embodiment, and connection, and again and again we see how much can change when people have the capacity not just to navigate conflict, but to repair after something has gone wrong.

We created this workshop because we want to give people an opportunity to actually practice those skills, not only understand them.

Maybe you know this feeling, too.

Maybe there’s a conversation you keep putting off because you’re afraid of what will happen if you have it.

Maybe you’ve had a rupture with someone you care about and don’t know how to find your way back.

Maybe you keep getting caught in the same conflict, even though you’ve promised yourself you’ll handle it differently next time.

Or maybe nothing dramatic has happened, but you can already feel resentment, guardedness, or distance beginning to grow.

You don’t have to wait until the hurt becomes enormous to learn how to repair.

The problem isn’t that we have conflict.

It’s that most of us were never taught what to do with it.

Some of us fight, defend, blame, or shut down. Others avoid conflict altogether, staying quiet, swallowing what we feel, accommodating, or walking on eggshells because we’re afraid that speaking honestly will create more distance.

But what isn’t addressed doesn’t necessarily disappear.

Hurt can accumulate. Resentment can grow. We become more guarded and less vulnerable. We pull away.

Ironically, in trying to protect our relationships from conflict, we can create the very distance we’re trying to prevent.

Why address it now?

Because unresolved hurt has a way of becoming part of a relationship.

The longer conflict goes unrepaired, the more we’re repairing not only what happened, but everything that has accumulated since.

Maybe there’s already something sitting between you and someone you care about. Maybe you can feel yourself beginning to pull away. Maybe you’re simply tired of repeating a pattern you know isn’t working.

Repair is easier to learn before resentment and distance have had years to build.

About Odelia

Odelia is a Somatic therapist who has an incredible ability to get to the source of trauma and roadblocks in others. Her work focuses on self-acceptance, inclusion, compassion, and joy, and is HAES™-aligned.

She’s trained across multiple Somatic platforms including Bartenieff Fundamentals, Laban Movement Analysis, Body-Mind Centering™ (BMC), and is certified as a Structural Yoga instructor through the Stone Center For Yoga and Health.

She has a BA in Psychology from The Open University. Odelia graduated from the Leven Institute with dual certifications in Shake Your Soul™ and SomaSoul™and was certified as a Somatic Movement Therapist and Educator through ISMETA in 2005.

She began her Somatic and Movement Education Company, Embodied Acceptance, in 2013, offering classes and workshops, both in-person and virtual, to hundreds of women.