Somatic Sex and Relationship Coaching

 
 

You want love. You want more intimacy, and for your life to be fulfilling and satisfying.

But for some reason, it feels unattainable. Like it’s only for “other” people. You’re at a loss when it comes to the practical aspects of creating a life like this.

I’m here to promise you something. Not only do you deserve to have a life filled with intimacy and connection, it’s something you can create.

The problem is, no one ever taught you how to create it.

Not only that, we think that we’re supposed to know everything about sex and relationships and that it’s supposed to be spontaneous.

This is a lie.

The good news is that there's no shame in not knowing everything and that being good at intimacy is a learnable skill.

This is where I can help as a Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach.

The reason working with a Somatic practitioner around these issues is so effective is because, as opposed to sex or relationship counseling, you get to practice and experience things in your body in real time.

We use the time in our sessions as a relationship lab where you get to practice intimacy skills with me. You get to sense and feel things in your body and learn from that.

It is a well known fact that doing things is a faster, more effective route to learning and transformation than talking or thinking about things.

 
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Here are some of the things I can help you with:

Reconnecting with your sexual self

  • Deshamifying desire/sex

  • Finding safety in your body 

  • Erotic embodiment - connecting to your desire 

  • Mapping pleasure points in your body 

  • Reclaiming full erotic self expression 

  • Decompartamentalizing sexuality 

  • Learning how to give guidance to what you want 

  • Disinhibition 

  • Learning how to give and experience pleasure if you own a vulva 

  • Learning how to give and experience pleasure if you own a penis

  • Learning how to deal with sexual dysfunctions like low desire or erectile dysfunction

Emotional Empowerment

  • Embodying your emotions (feeling your emotions) 

  • Mapping your triggers and and de-escalating activation

  • Facing disappointment

Tools for Intimacy and Bonding

  • Identifying your attachment style

  • Attunement 

  • Practicing eye contact

  • Practicing giving and receiving nurturing touch

  • Sharing present moment feelings

 

Relationship challenges

  • Repairing ruptures 

Boundaries

  • Sensing into our boundaries 

  • Claiming your body

  • Learning how to offer a boundary lovingly

Consent

  • Practice having a consent conversation 

  • Escalating sexual intimacy while confirming ongoing consent

Foundations of sex

  • Deshamifying desire/sex

  • Touching for you own pleasure 

  • Creating energy circuit 

  • Exploring kinds of touch 

  • Exploring dimensions of sex/tendencies

Tools for sexual compatibility

  • Identifying Core Desires 

  • Creating your Hottest Sexual Movie

Meeting and dating

  • Seduction skills

 
 

 

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Why you’d want to work with me as a somatic sex and relationship coach:

  • Experience a secure attachment and uninhibited expression in your relationships

  • Tune into your feelings and sexuality

  • Embrace all of yourself, including your wants, emotions, needs, and boundaries

  • Learn to share your needs and maintain your boundaries effectively

  • Navigate others' boundaries and needs without feeling pressured or rejected

  • Release any shame and explore how it constrains your vitality and self-assurance

  • Define your sexual desires clearly and advocate for them confidently

  • Expand your understanding of sexuality and its possibilities

  • Connect with your sexual desires to embrace all your wants, in every area of your life - this leads to a truly fulfilled life

  • Feel free to choose the relationship structure that suits you best

  • Find confidence and peace in your sexual orientation and gender identity

  • Discover the resilience to confront relationship fears like loss, disillusionment, rejection, or losing yourself

  • Foster a mindset of curiosity and non-judgment

  • Feel at ease in your body regardless of its size, shape, abilities, or functionalities

 
 
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How is this different from other types of sex therapy or coaching? 

Traditional sex therapy focuses on sexuality through a clinical or dysfunction-oriented lens. The emphasis is mainly on problem-solving over an extended period, rather than exploring ways to enhance or expand sexual experiences.

The main goal becomes reaching a state of "OK", “fine”, “it’s alright”. It doesn’t usually aim for an experience beyond that.

Which means the experiences you deserve like “mind-blowing” “life-changing” and “deeply-healing” don’t come into play.

Like most conventional sex therapists, I’m a deeply knowledgeable and well-trained sexologist who possesses all the evidence-based insights typically offered by sex therapists.

While many sex therapists resort to using books and videos and offering homework, I’m able to do a lot of erotic education and practice in my office. This generates quicker and more lasting change as well as a sense of mastery that will transform your daily life.

Many therapeutic modalities focus on what’s not working or what happened to you in the past. As important as it is to address your wounds, Somatic Sex and Relationship coaching offers a fresh new perspective for your future.

What if I told you the road to healing yourself doesn’t have to go through struggle or pain? What if you can find true transformation through pleasure?

Ready to try it?

Book a discovery work to explore how I can help you.

I also offer an introductory 3 session package to help you use your desire as a tool for spiritual expansion and to create abundance in your life.

 
 
 
 

Odelia Shargian

RYT, RSME, RSMT, SEP

 
 

I have a BA in Psychology, and extensive training and experience as a counselor and as a Re-evaluation counseling teacher. My journey into the body-mind connection has led me to become a Yoga instructor and a Registered Somatic Movement Therapist and Educator certified through the International Somatic Movement Education and Therapy association. 

My journey into Somatics allowed me to infuse my practice with the top trauma healing modalities in the body-psychotherapy world, Somatic Experiencing and Inner Relationship Focusing.  

My own personal work involved healing my fraught relationship with my body. In order to learn how to accept my body fully and help others do the same, I trained as an Intuitive Eating counselor. All my offerings are therefore body inclusive and HAES® aligned. 

Healing my relationship with my body expanded into healing my relationship with my sexuality and learning how to heal my trauma through pleasure. This work has led me to train with the Somatica® Institute and become a Somatic Sex and Relationship coach and a Somatic Sexologist.  

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