Dating burnout? You’re doing it wrong

If you’ve ever felt *tired* of dating, like the cycle of swiping, chatting, and first dates is just draining you, you’re not alone.

Dating burnout is real, and it happens to so many people.

The biggest culprit? Approaching dating with the singular goal of finding “the one.”

When every date is secretly carrying the pressure of, “Is this my person?” the experience quickly becomes high-stakes.

Each time it doesn’t work out, it can feel like a personal failure or another step further away from your dream.

Add in long lists of requirements, or the feeling that time is running out, and dating becomes heavy, joyless, and exhausting.

But what if you shifted your mindset?

Instead of aiming to find “the one”, what if you aimed to form connections?

When you do that, every date has the potential to be valuable, even if it doesn’t turn into a forever relationship.

Here’s what that looks like:

• You get to meet people you might never have crossed paths with otherwise.

• You practice intimacy, vulnerability, and communication in real time.

• You learn more about yourself, what lights you up, what feels good, what doesn’t.

• You create space for relationships that may not be lifelong, but can still bring laughter, growth, or even healing.

This shift makes dating feel lighter. You don’t need every encounter to be “the one.” You just need to show up with curiosity, openness, and the willingness to connect.

And the beautiful thing? When the pressure lifts, you actually become more magnetic. People can feel when you’re desperate, just as they can feel when you’re genuinely present and curious.

Dating doesn’t have to be a grueling search for perfection. It can be a journey of discovery, about others, and about yourself. And from that more grounded, joyful place, the right person has a much better chance of finding you.