No tricks, no shame: just you as a better lover

This is my second article in my demystifying s-x coaching series.

If you ever asked yourself what you could actually get out of S-x and Relationship coaching, this is for you.

So, what are the benefits of S-x & Relationship Coaching❓

A S-x & Relationship Coach helps people become better lovers by helping them:

  • Release shame around desires and fantasies

  • Address low libido due to lack of emotional intimacy, loss of attraction, stress, trauma, poor body image, painful s-x and medication

  • Heal from s-xual trauma

  • Learn how to relax into pleasure and expand capacity for receiving

  • Overcome s-xual dysfunctions such as Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, Delayed Ejaculation, Anorgasmia, or pelvic pain.

  • Develop powerful communication skills for talking about emotional and physical needs and desires

  • Explore, identify and express boundaries.

  • Practice consent skills

  • Learn seduction skills including foreplay, s-xy talk, sensual touch, and bringing erotic energy with confidence

  • Navigate mismatched desire whether in amount or kind

  • Embrace s-xual or gender identity

  • Practice dating skills and navigate online dating

  • Integrate s-xual and spiritual practices such as Tantra or Taoism

  • Explore kink, BDSM, fetishes or alternative s-xual desires without shame

  • Create and maintain open or alternative relationship structures

  • Support intimacy through different life stages and aging

  • Address fears around porn addiction

What actually happens in a s-x coaching session❓

S-x and relationship coaching does NOT involve s-x although they do use hands-on methods to teach s-xual skills .

There could be s-xual elements in the session such as the exchange of s-xual energy and/or touch.

All sessions are conducted fully clothed and all contact is non-genital, whether in person or online.

Depending on your needs, sessions may be purely conversational or include guided experiential exercises. For example, I may:

  • Teach different types of sensual or erotic touch.

  • Guide you through breathwork and movement practices

  • Help you practice communication, flirting, or seduction skills

  • Role-play conversations to build confidence in real-life situations

These practices help you embody what you’re learning, not just understand it intellectually, so you can create lasting change in your intimate life.

Why does this matter? After all, it’s “just s-x,” right?

How we connect to the most intimate parts of ourselves and others has a dramatic and lasting affect on how we go through every aspect of life. Unlocking intimacy, physical pleasure and getting in touch with your deepest desires has the power to change your life.

💌 If you’ve been curious about s-x & relationship coaching, you don’t have to have it all figured out. You can just start where you are.

Odelia Shargian