Manifesting is impossible without your nervous system.

In the spiritual world there’s a lot of talk about manifesting.

Manifesting your desires through affirmations or visualizations is great, but it doesn’t always happen the way you want it to.

It might be because you’re missing one key ingredient…

Your nervous system and how it’s constantly working to keep you feeling safe.

There’s a reason you keep doing the things you do.

Desires are wishes that haven’t happened yet.

You may know what you want on a theoretical level but the changes required to have those things are so big that your nervous system can’t handle it.

It doesn’t feel safe.

Yet.

So how can you help yourself feel safe?

Build the capacity to hold what you desire gradually, little by little.

Instead of fighting with yourself and not understanding why you’re not where you want to be, you get to tell your nervous system that it’s ok that it doesn’t feel safe yet.

You can think of a small step that will take you in that direction but not get your nervous system freaked out.

Let’s say that you have been in a relationship for a while, and now you’re craving freedom.

Maybe you can’t imagine the end of that relationship because you experienced abandonment when you were younger. As much as a part of you needs to feel free, there’s a whole other part that is terrified of being left on your own.

Every time you visualize yourself not in that relationship, you experience dysregulation as a result of that old experience of abandonment getting kicked up.

So what can you do?

Instead of pushing your nervous system to do something it’s not ready for, you can decide to notice small moments when you CAN experience freedom.

Maybe you haven’t done things on your own for years, so you start doing the things you loved to do before, or maybe you do them with other people.

When you allow yourself to experience any amount of freedom, however small, you can stay with, savor and even expand that feeling.

You’re making a stronger connection between the experience of freedom and the experience of safety.