Trouble with seggz? It’s not your fault!

Having less motivation for sex and enjoying it less than you want or not at all does not mean you need to be fixed.

You’re not broken.

It’s not your fault you think you need to be fixed. Your subconscious loves to let you think that you’re not good enough. It’s a coping technique, especially when you feel scared.

And chances are, you’ve been told—from a few different people—that you need to “fix things up”.

It comes through in phrases like:

• Wow what a mess!

• What did you do to yourself?

• What’s wrong with you?

Ouch! Here you are doing right by your family, your work, your relationships and your life and BAM! Someone else tells you that you’re a mess.

I promise, it’s not true.

And you might just feel like all that pressure is too much, especially for the bedroom.

If you’re afraid of sex or sexuality or you’re nervous that you’re not good enough at it, or it just doesn’t interest you any more …

You’re not alone.

The pressure to do everything “right” is real. But you can learn to let it go.

Nothing and no one is perfect. By exploring your own wants a little bit and learning more about what you like, sex can be more fun and feel good.

It’s a fundamental truth that when you add more fun to an activity, you can focus on what really matters: Your own pleasure and desires, and how you can expand that to your partner(s), too.