Wait, great intimacy only takes this?
When a relationship is new sparks fly and it’s easy to get and stay turned on.
But what happens when time goes by and the sparks are gone?
How do you make sure your intimacy is alive and kicking? The answer: make sure your Core Desires are met.
Your core desires are based on unresolved inner conflicts from your childhood and they encompass every feeling you want to experience when you engage in the sacred practice of love making.
There are a few steps to ensure sexual compatibility in long term relationships:
Learning what turns each partner on (your Core Desires)
Communicating these Core Desires in a way that each partner can understand
Fully accepting each partner’s Core Desires while knowing that each partner gets to have their boundaries as well
Learning how to play out each partners Core Desires in an experiential way
Learning how to bridge differences in how you want to have s-x based on your Core Desires, mostly by taking turns filling each others Core Desires
And let’s be honest here. Mastering each of these steps is not a small feat.
Even the first step of learning what turns you on can be challenging in our sex-negative society. We’ve been raised to feel shame just for asking. “What brings you pleasure?”
There’s nothing that enhances intimacy more than creating a safe space to share that gorgeous part of you that is the sexual you.
This process is not just a matter of communication.
It's about discovering how each of you want to feel and learning how to give that experience to each other in a practical way.