Being attractive is an inside job

If you’re like me, and especially if you don’t live in a normative body, you struggle with feeling (or believing) you’re desirable.

That can hinder your libido or get in the way of intimacy because you’re afraid no one finds you attractive. So you turn yourself off.

You might look at yourself from the perspective of how you think others perceive you, but that’s all in your head.

Besides, I have news for you:

Your attractiveness has nothing to do with your looks! It’s completely an inside job!

Whether it’s a celebrity or someone close to you, all of us know someone who is living in a larger body or doesn’t conform to the “normal” standard of beauty in our society that is absolutely magnetizing.

If it's not their looks, what is it that makes them so attractive, then?

One of the tools we use in the Somatica method is practicing creating an erotic energy circle with someone. You connect to your own erotic energy and relate to the other person from that place.

When you practice this with someone who can connect to their own erotic energy, there’s no way you won’t feel attracted to them, even though the immediate attraction might not be obvious when you first come in contact with them.

That is to say, anyone can be attractive if they’re connected to their own desire.

Those people whom you may find attractive maintain their connection to their erotic energy throughout their day and with each interaction, not just in sex.

Their desire is their power and allows them to exude confidence, aliveness, a strong sense of presence, an open posture and expression which all translate to attractiveness.

So you might be wondering how you can connect to your desire and maintain this connection throughout your day...

That’s definitely something that I can help you with. I can guide you through embodiment, breath, movement and visualization. Let me know if you’d like to schedule a session. odelia@embodiedacceptance.com