This is not your mama’s therapy

People often ask me what is the difference between couples therapy/s-x therapy and s-x & relationship coaching.

Here’s what I say.

It’s SOMATIC = the embodiment of emotions at the center of the healing process. Sensations and feelings live in the body and they are as important a reference point as are throughs, stories and beliefs.

It’s EXPERIENTIAL= the best learning happens through experience. Exercises that are specifically designed to practice skills that are relevant to the client’s goals are done in real time as opposed to theoretical concepts or even assignments that are given as homework.

It’s RELATIONAL = As a practitioner I’m not removed from the client’s process. The relationship between the client and I is as real as any other outside relationship. The client has and we use our reactions to each other to grow, learn and practice what can be possible elsewhere.

It’s PLEASURE BASED = the pathways to healing are found through what brings us most pleasure rather than excavating the trauma. Instead of trying to resist who we are, we find ways to celebrate the strategies that we acquired to deal with our early wounds and safely create intimate situations to replay them with agency or to bring resolution.

As you can see, coaching allows for a broader range of possibilities than what’s typically found in a therapy setting. While the work can be edgy and outside traditional boundaries, clear agreements and ethical safeguards ensure that both you and I remain safe and supported throughout the process.

What is it not?

It is NOT s-x work or surrogacy.

Curious about what’s possible in this practice? Feel free to send me an email with your questions.