Your pleasure is important

“Eh, who needs sex anyway?”

Ever heard yourself say that? Most women have …

Understanding why you’re not into sex is important.

And let’s be honest, it’s hard to know where to start when it’s not even a priority right now.

Chances are, most of your day is about prioritizing other people’s needs at home, work, etc.

Pleasure is on the back burner. Pleasurable sex is no different (sadly).

Many of us even ignore our own needs to the point that we’ll go on with sexual pain for years or with “no sensations.”

Culture and sex education rarely focus on what women want. Sex education mostly teaches us about STIs and pregnancy, missing the part about intimacy and pleasure.

Which is odd because:

• Genital touch usually begins at a young age

• Arousal or orgasm occurs around puberty

• Sexual pleasure, including masturbation, is common in children (boys>girls).

• Boys tend to gain more knowledge which stimulation is pleasurable for them.

The goal of orgasm is mostly driven towards the male especially because a male orgasm is necessary for procreation. A woman’s orgasm is not. So it’s been deprioritized, unfortunately.

The largest pleasure gap exists between heterosexual women (65% who orgasm with a male partner) to heterosexual men (95% who orgasm with a female partner).

Women and men are equally arousable. But our pleasure is measured differently.

Pleasure teaches us about the kind of sex that is worth desiring.

Sexual satisfaction and pleasure, and positive sexual self-esteem improve sexual health, mental health, and physical health outcomes.

It promotes overall wellbeing through improved relationship quality and general life satisfaction.

It allows you to feel good and to relieve stress. Less stress means better body function

Your entire body has pleasure potential!

Pleasure is not shameful! It is not “dirty.” It’s to be enjoyed.